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Monday, June 01, 2009, 9:05 PM
family?
Oh well, i'm real fed-up with my unappreciative relatives and i need to vent this anger somewhere. I tried telling Felicia part of my family's problem while shopping at taka but i ended up breathless and somewhat upset aft that. Aye. It's a long story. Just let me ramble.I have a cousin, let's call him Z. He's the eldest son of my 1st uncle, what we call 长孙 of the family. He used to work for my dad and I was quite close to him and his siblings when i was younger. Or maybe i should say when i was navie and stupid. They used to talk abt my dad, not really badmouthing him but kind of hinting that my dad isnt really treating him well and sorts.(almost all my cousins work for my dad - even my cousin's husband). I actually believed them. Until when i was old enough to understand what was going on - my mom told me in secret that my cousin caused my dad's company to lose tens and thousands of money due to him slacking off. He was involved in car accidents, smashing the company's car and the police found
I believe this was what really started it all.
After my dad sacked Z, his mom, 3 sisters all came to ask my dad to give him another chance. Even my grandparents. Luckily, my dad is a stubborn man. He seldom changes his mind. Z's family thus have this grudge against us. Jobless and in debt, he turned to my grandfather who fortunately has a 重男轻女mindset. Moreover, Z's the 长孙 of the family. Of course he would help Z. My dad has rubber plantation in Muar(my family's hometown) and the money that comes from it are supposed to be kept in a bank account with my dad and grandfather's name(part of it are for my grandparent's expenses). My dad seldom check the accounts since he's busy and Muar is 2hrs-drive away from JB. My grandfather actually took the money(my dad's money) every month to give it to Z to set up his own business - the plantation brings in ard rm8000 to rm10000 every mnth. Apparently it was a lie and Z's still bumming ard somewhere or doing illegal stuff - dont know, dont care. I really wonder if my grandfather is senile or is Z such a good money digger. Z actually has the cheek to tell my grandfather that he wants to take care of the plantation. More like he wants to take care of the money. My dad, being neither stupid or senile, told my grandfather that he'll take care of the plantation from now on and took the bank book from him which my grandfather was reluctant to hand over.
Sometimes i really hate my grandparents for showing favouritism so obviously. My grandfather dotes on Z, my grandmother dotes on my youngest uncle. My youngest uncle drinks alcohol like water. He came to our house ystd and when he walked pass me, he smelled of alcohol and it was only 8pm. The first thing he did after sitting down was to ask his youngest son to get him a can of beer from our fridge. Self-service huh. When he left, he had another can in his hand and i had to clear up 2 empty cans aft him. He has 4 kids and doesnt make enough money to feed them and buy alcohol, so my grandmother helps him. By giving him the money my dad gives her for every month. No wonder my grandparents need ard rm5000 every mnth. As if they eat or spend alot?
My dad is the only child who gives my grandparents money. He pays for their house's electricity bill and even the cable money. When my grandfather had to do a by-pass operation and then another to cut off part of his colon 2yrs ago, my dad had to pay over rm100 000 for his fees. My grandfather was diagnosed with colon cancer. When they were checking him, they realised his arteries were blocked. Hence they had to do a by-pass before cutting part of his colon. My mom had to stay in the hospital overnight to look aft him - because no one else volunteered. I went to the hospital aft my focus study(i was in sec4) and i was the only idiot who stood outside his ward crying for hrs when i heard he had to do a by-pass. Z actually came over to ask me to stop making a big fuss and making my grandfather worried. He's freaking over 70, had a stroke and tuberculosis before, not to mention high blood pressure and high cholesterol. Who knows what else is going to happen to him? After his operation, he had to go for chemotherapy. My dad stayed with him through the 6hrs session every week and of course, pay for the fees which reached rm3000 without fail everytime.
How does my grandfather repays us? Aft his chemo ended, he happily reverted back to his old lifestyle. Nasi Lemak for breakfast, goreng pisang for tea, bbq meat while watching TV. And now, 2yrs later, his cancer cells are back. This time his lungs and lymphatic systems. So my dad is back to paying for his chemo and bringing him there every monday. But does my grandparents appreciate what my dad has done for them? NO. Z has a younger sister, called Y. She is like a female version of Z. For some reason, she likes going back to Muar to stay with my grandparents. Now my grandparents have grown attached to her and her kids. They want to stay at no one's house except hers. And she actually asked for money from my dad. Who gives her rm700 every month. Even though my dad still gives my grandparents money every month.
Now my grandparents are staying at my house. Since my grandfather had to go for chemo today. When he came back from the hospital, the first thing he did was to call Y - to ask her to come them him up. She said she had smth on. At ard 4pm, my grandfather called her again - to ask her to come pick them up. She was still busy. Then aft dinner, my grandfather tried again - to ask her to pick them up. I dont think she said yes, because they're still here. It really hurts to see this. After all we did for them, they just want to go back to their beloved granddaughter. Like we dont even exist.
I wonder how my family would be like without my dad. How my youngest uncle will live without my dad. How my cousins will live without my dad. How my grandparents will live without my dad.
♥ 9:05 PM